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I am a person suffering from a bit of obsessive compulsive disorder(ocd) and mostly religious part that is fear of committing unpardonable sin, eternal death or eternal suffering in hell from the age of 6.Also I was very shy and felt uneasy in social situations perhaps was suffering from social anxiety disorder.I felt intense fear, anxiety in my childhood about my ocd fear of sin for obsessive, compulsive thoughts about Gods, families etc.With the time it subsided.But social anxiety was still there.At present I am 22.Two years back I felt an unusual kind of problem in my mind where I got extremely worried about the problem of committing unpardonable sin in future sort of things. It seemed to me that something had got hold of my mind and completely controlled it. I couldn’t feel relaxed, always anxious etc.Thoughts continue to run in my mind despite of my efforts to neglect them. I felt that I couldn’t feel emotions and I felt anxiety all the time.The more I resisted it, the more it persisted.When I sort out a problem and feel less anxious another problem related to previous one used to pop up in front of me.Like “what if this happened in future”. After some time I decided to search on net about my condition.After intensive searching and reading I got some impression that I might be suffering from anxiety disorder. I used to feel anxiety many times before this and also depression but since the age of 20, for two years it is affecting me very much, I never felt like this before. I am not able to study, concentrate on anything and do a job or business.My memory is almost gone. But On surfing net, I found that there are some physical symptoms as well of anxiety. Like breathlessness, heart palpitations etc.But I have only mental issues. Then I think It might not be an anxiety problem because there are not any physical symptoms. I have searched on net about mindfulness, congnitive behavioral therapy(CBT), acceptance and letting go.But my anxiety is worsening.It is worsening because for the two years I am unemployed and have been unable to study because of this.and also age is slipping from my hand .I have already wasted two years. Being a socially anxious person, I think what people would think about me. An unemployed person. I am unable to manage my time.I put pressure and stress on myself for finishing every task early so that I can manage time effectively. But I am in catch-22 situation. Having not been able to study in this mental condition is worsening my anxiety. And that is causing more problem and I feel utter lack of concentration and relaxation and cann’t study.I am not able to experience my surroundings. It seems I am not aware of my environment.I find myself thinking all the time solution for this anxiety and all time I am in head and this is making problem worse. My financial condition is poor.What can I do at this time to relax myself and pursue my study and get a job which is possible if this anxiety comes to a manageable level.Also I live with my old age dad.We are two members in family.He is putting pressure on me for marriage because he wants to see me happy and not alone after him. But I think Why anybody else suffer because of my mental condition.At the same time I think that With whom I will live after my dad.There are many such questions in front of me at this time?I desperately want to feel in control of my feelings and emotions and want to relax but this desperation is bringing more uncomfort.There is social stigma attached if people come to know of my condition.Being a socially anxious person that is very hard to handle.Moreover a career, job can bring me some sort of security but who will give me a job without proper education and If anybody gives me a job , I will not be able to stay there for more than a week because my mental condition,lack of concentration and awareness,memory will land me in problem there.What to do? Please help me.

Here are 12 tips for overcoming anxiety, or at least alleviating it:
1. Lack of control over your thoughts, strengthens your anxiety. As negative thoughts get stronger, your anxiety gets stronger too. You need to learn to control your thoughts.
2. Feelings and emotions fuel and strengthen anxiety. You need to develop some self discipline, and learn to have control over your feelings. You also need to develop some degree of emotional detachment.
3.When you go to bed at night, and first thing when you wake up in the morning, think about the good things that are happening to you. There are always some good things happening, even if small and insignificant.
4. Start the day with several minutes of positive affirmations. Tell yourself how would like your day to be. Use positive, cheering and motivating words.
5. Be busy and do something, since activity keeps your mind off your anxiety. When you wake up in the morning, start doing something right away, and keep busy all day. Cleaning the house, washing the dishes or working in your garden, reading, studying, meditating, or exercising your body can help you keep your mind away from anxiety. Staying idle, and thinking about your problems and worries won’t make them go away.
6. Set a goal and work everyday to achieve it. This action will direct your thoughts and feelings away from worries and anxieties, toward something more positive and constructive.
7. Talk about your anxieties to someone you trust. Talking about your anxieties and feelings can alleviate them, and put them in the right proportions, provided you talk objectively, and with a real desire to get rid of your anxiety, or at least reduce its intensity.
8. Exercising your body and staying fit, is a good way to keep fears and anxieties away. You can walk, swim, do yoga, aerobics, or any other sport.
9. Find reasons to laugh. This will bring light and happiness into your life, and drive anxiety away. Watch comedies on TV, be with happy and amusing friends, or read something that makes you laugh.
10. Use positive words in your conversation and in your inner talk.
11. Affirm and visualize positive situations and events. Visualize a happy and positive solution to your problems.
12. If watching the news fills you with anxiety – turn off the TV! Limit the time you watch the news, and don’t watch anything that might upset you, before you go to bed.

Good luck and God bless you

I see many kids that play video games all the time instead of actually getting out of the house and interacting with people… And this starts when kids are very young. Shouldn’t parents get their kids to get out of the house more
and you don’t necessarily have to tell them not to play, you could just not get the game systems for them…

My friends and family and I have always been addicted to games (whether they are board games, or puzzles, or video games…) and the only thing I can tell is, if it is an outlet, let them do it! Would you rather someone be depressed all the time, or play video games. Some people like being anti-social (Hell I was antisocial for most of my life and now I never meet a stranger…)

The main thing is, if they want to get out and do something, they will. If they don’t, let them play. Eventually someone is going to have to change. See I don’t have a problem with video games because we have always been better off playing the games (than being outside and drinking and doing drugs and having sex like most other kids when they were our age!)

And if anything, we learned strategies and tactics and skills that helped us later in life.
‘Professor of Computer Science, Maria Klavee feels video games, if not too violent, can "offer some real opportunities for puzzle solving, strategic and critical thinking". But she adds that it’s important that video and computer games are played in moderation. Klavee says parents should "provide a selection of activities, not just the ones that have the most action or are addictive. Choose some that involve problem solving or good story lines. Also aim for a balance in your child’s life. Sports are important, reading’s important. Just think of computer games as one more component in a child’s exploration of what’s out there in society."'(Source 2)

"Video and computer games will continue to be an exciting and growing part of children’s media diets. With so many good games available for children and youth, it is unfortunate that so much attention has to be paid to games which are inappropriate for all youth and harmful to some. As long as children have easy access to these games, then policy debates will continue. Perhaps those debates will be moot in the near future as both the industry and parents make sure that the children and youth of America are sold games that entertain and benefit them." (Source 1)

I wouldn’t say it’s completely healthy to play these video games; but at the same time, you can learn a lot from playing a game long enough.

I hope this has helped you.

I am very bad a sports and I heard that playing video and computer games can help me become more athletic and play better. Does it really help?

You might be able to try and mimic their techniques for like shooting a ball/kicking a ball or something, but the best thing to do would be to practice in real life.

The only thing I could see video games helping in would be strategy like being able to position your teammates and tell them where to go/what to do at what time to make the best play possible, but otherwise I don’t see a huge benefit.

I’m just saying this, but maybe the reason you’re not good at sports is because you think playing them on a video game would make you better at them? I mean I love games, don’t get me wrong, but I also play High School varsity soccer and I know there’s no way in hell I’d be as good as I am without having practiced and played in real life, and I know I wouldn’t even be able to dribble/kick the ball if I attempted to learn from a video game instead of learning from someone who knows how to do it and explain it (like another player/teammate or the coach) and being able to practice it over and over and over in real life.