I’ve always been a sporty kind of person if you know what i mean, less of a sit and eat or do some kind of brain activity. Now my college major is really all about brain activity, and i have scoliosis which sort of restricts me from doing any crazy Action Sports but i can still do them. So, the reason why i said that is that i’ve been looking for a girl to have a relationship with but i’m not so sure what’s wrong. My main comfort area from high school was drawing and art(which my college major changed to engineering), which was my main major, and i loved artsy or sporty girls. Now in this case, i have, excuse my language smartass girls, who have too much to live for, at least in the classes. I’ve found this circle a little sickening to me, and i’m not sure if something’s wrong with me or with the people i’m looking at, i don’t try to judge them, they’re nice people but when i look at some of the girls i want to find a conversation or at least something to get their attention but i’m just lost at that point. I don’t even know what to say, or if they would even care, i’m starting to think i’m just an ugly useless piece of trash who at this point all can do is calculate things. I don’t know what to say, i don’t talk much, and asking for a relationship is a hard step as it is. It’s just been really bothering me lately due to my friends getting jobs and now they never have any time to hang out or talk or communicate in any manner, and even if that’s not a problem, i still think a girl would deem me useless because all i can offer her is myself and the way i pronounce myself to her, she obviously has other, better things to do than talk to me. When i wash my face i look in the mirror and i try to express some kind of emotion but my face doesn’t even shift expressions, it’s the same, it’s so empty i feel like nothing i can do will ever change anything, and now it’s true. People have jobs, they have responsibilities, they have lives. Just way too busy to think of minor things like this to get in the way, i’m not even sure why i’m writing this since i usually delete questions like this before i even write them down because i can allready tell what the answers will be. But i’ll put this one up just so i got at least one that i know you guys answered. I’m sorry for taking your time to read all this i just wanted to let you know the specifics. I’m also Ukranian/Russian, and sometimes i see girls get put off by that and i’m not even sure why so i usually never say i am. But when i do, they start treating me differently and as a "oh he doesn’t know" foreigner, and i think that’s also one of the few problems i have. I’ve had this "phone relationship" with a girl in another state for about 2 years, and we went from this phone-love relationship (lots of hours per day, sometimes not even going to sleep the entire night), to a friend relationship because we realized we could not afford to be with each other because of distance and costs to simply have a relationship. This depressive behavior has been interfering with my college homework which is usually a lot, and took away a lot of energy from me on certain days, even this one, along with concentration. I’ve never been this sad my entire life, at this point it’s not even arguable that i’m useless, it’s just a plain fact. Anyways, thank you for reading up to this point, if you have advice on how to deal with something like this please tell me, i’d appreaciate it very much.
Personally, I think you don’t need a girlfriend!
How old are you? Since your in College I’m sure your still young! You’ve got the rest of your life to find that perfect one. Don’t stress about it, your not useless, or ugly, or any of that. 😉
You will find that outside of school there is an entirely new and BIG world, TONS of girls out there that may be just like you.
College can be a difficult and stressful part in your life, It is a confusing period of your life where you are constantly questioning yourself, "what will I do when I’m older? will I always be alone? what will my future become?"
It may be a bumpy ride, but you must never give up! That girl is out there and you’ll find her someday, maybe tomorrow even, or next week! You’ll find her when the time comes, even if its not now, you shouldn’t feel pressured or the need to have a girlfriend, you have to be strong and independent enough so when she does come along, you can still stand on your two feet even without her. These depressing patches of college years will not last you, so keep your head up and work hard towards your dreams! That’s what you should be really looking at right now! School will always contain a rocky social group and those immature people, but once your out of that you’ll find yourself in a much wider world! With many different people just like you even! So don’t be down! Work with and focus on your dreams, and to your surprise, you might just meet "her" on your journey! 🙂
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